Criticism of Anti-Feminists

Discussing my own thoughts on feminism and gender equality

Erik Engheim
33 min readSep 11, 2023

In my latest article about lonely men and women, I was trying to push back against the narrative that women are all to blame for the loneliness of men. Apparently, that makes me a radical male feminist, according to some of my critiques. So in this story, I want to address some of that criticism by talking about anti-feminism and my own perspective on feminism.

Let me start by explaining the motivation for my story about loneliness. Stories have to be read in context. For me, the context was all the hateful comments I had seen towards single women. To quote myself, my aim was never to claim men got all the blame instead:

So, is this piece only about dumping on men? Should men just shut up and not complain about being single, and women get all the praise and empathy? Absolutely not. I think both men and women should get understanding and sympathy if they struggle to find a partner in their life.

In other words, if you think I am fundamentally wrong, you are essentially saying: “No, women are indeed to be blamed for their own loneliness as well as for the loneliness of men.”

I was trying to bring balance to the debate, by trying to sympathize with the female perspective, but apparently that makes me a…

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Erik Engheim

Geek dad, living in Oslo, Norway with passion for UX, Julia programming, science, teaching, reading and writing.