Erik Engheim
3 min readNov 19, 2024

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If you watched someone rape your daughter. Imagine it goes to court and the rapist is acquitted because the evidence is not strong enough.

Would you shrug and go "Oh I guess he is innocent then. My eyes lied to me, and my daughter lied about her experience."

Of course not. That would be utterly absurd and silly. Reality exists independent of the judicial system. Reality decides if a rape happened or not. The court does not.

The point of the courts is to prove to the general public beyond reasonable doubt that a rape happened, so that the person can be punished. Most of the time you cannot and the rapist walks free.

Imagine your daughter got raped and you were barred from speaking about it or criticizing the rapist without threat of prison because somehow his aquittal means he is innocent. No, it doesn't.

Because the cursory of that would be that you and your daughter are liars. And if you are liars you have made a false accusation and if you made a false accusation you must be punished.

You see the problem with this legal thinking? Logic doesn't work in such a way that if you fail to prove something the opposite has now been proven true.

False rape accusations should not as a rule get punished. Why do you think I covered the Loretta case? It is one of many examples of a false rape accusation which the "accuser" cannot be held liable. Picking the wrong man by mistake is considered a "false rape accusation."

If you want a special rule for rape it should apply to all accusations. If you as witness point out the wrong murder suspect you need to go to prison for 20 years. Go ahead and try to make that a rule and see conviction rate for all serious crime drop to zero. Nobody will be a witness or prosecute a case if an honest mistake is punished.

Lying to the police or in court can be prosecuted. You can prosecute somebody for slander if they claim you raped them. So the idea that you cannot protect yourself against false rape accusations is false.

Does it suck? Of course. You may be demonized while you decide whether you go to court or not.

But let us get real. You claim false rape accusations destroy lives. Then why was Cosby, R Kelly, P Diddy, Donald Trump and Jeffrey Epstein able to live happily for decades with countless rape accusations?

Who suffered from that? It was the accusers who got mocked and humiliated. The Jane Doe accusing Trump on raping her while under aged at Epstein island got silenced by death threats.

One of the girls who got raped and filmed by the "Girls do Porn" company. Was the one constantly humiliated. Nobody believed her. The people who raped her faced no consequence.

There are countless case of this where the accuser is humiliated in public rather than the one actually guilty of rape.

False rape accusations is obviously a problem but the manosphere is trying to make this into the key problem when rape is the more serious problem. Most rapists walk and rape victims suffer dehabilitating trauma for decades after.

While a false rape accusation is horrible, it doesn't compare to being raped at all. The two cannot be equated. For rape victims goin through a normal court today is already a profoundly traumatizing ordeal. The defense will do anything to pick her apart. Suggest she is slutty, asked for it etc.

We cannot start a process where we make this experience even worse than it is.

You spoke of the UK. You know the Muslim grooming gangs then. The abuse of girls down to 12 years old is just horrendous. Straight out torture. Yet only a tiny fraction of the guilty have been prosecuted.

They have guys where multiple girls independently verify that they have been raped. Yet these guys still aren't prosecuted. It is so easy for the worst rapists today to walk free. That a normal decent guy should go to prison for a false rape accusation is extremely unlikely.

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Erik Engheim
Erik Engheim

Written by Erik Engheim

Geek dad, living in Oslo, Norway with passion for UX, Julia programming, science, teaching, reading and writing.

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