Indeed, but I think my aim in my writing is to acknowledge that both men and women have challenges, and things can get worse or better for each gender without it getting worse or better for the other.

I want to get away from the zero-sum way of thinking. I don't the happiness or well being of men depends on making life miserable for women or visa versa.

I live in a pretty feminist country, Norway, and I think we as men are generally better off because of it. If gender equality was supposed to be a net loss for men, then men in Norway would be extremely miserable but we are not.

But of course us men have our own problems which is in part why we cause trouble for others. Men are born more aggressive and less agreeable. It is also why most violence men do is against other men. We are the idiots who start wars, but we are also the ones mostly getting killed in wars.

School is a challenge for boys because boys are generally not very good at doing as they are told. I know autocratic parents who have raised daughters successfully but who struggle once they get a boy. He wont listen and they keep pushing, to the point where the boy gets suicidal.

But the interesting thing about this I find is that this general disagreeableness benefits boys a lot later in life. In professional life, you benefit from more aggressively pushing your interests. What hurts boys in school benefits them in professional work life.

Likewise being compliant which helps girls in school, hurt them in professional settings. Ideally I wish that school and professional life tried to accomodate each gender better. Make it easier for boys to act out in school, while more quiet but talented girls in worklife should be given more chances for advancement.