Lonely and Single Men and Women

Do women get more sympathy than men?

Erik Engheim
12 min readJul 24, 2023

Recently, Twitter got into debating a 23-year-old girl who talked about not having been kissed or in a relationship yet. She clearly displayed feeling shame, low self-esteem and asked what was wrong with her.

The responses were to me rather predictable. There was a fair amount of sympathy, as there should be. A fellow human being isn’t having a great time, so you empathize. Many other girls shared stories of similar problem.

That is fine, the issue was the barrage of negative comments from guys claiming it was self-inflicted, Feminism was to blame and then ranting on how women only get support while men get dumped on.

Somehow, none of them could see the irony of the situation. They all proved that women were in fact not just getting empathy. Instead, they very much proved while guy frequently do get criticism.

Are Men Criticized Too Much?

As a guy, I certainly feel at time that we often get too much undeserved criticism. But the older I get, the more I realize that such thinking stems a lot from focusing only on the difficulties you face yourself and not others. If you are a man struggling to find a partner, you are going to focus on the issues men face. You are less likely to stop…



Erik Engheim

Geek dad, living in Oslo, Norway with passion for UX, Julia programming, science, teaching, reading and writing.