Thanks for your long response. Great to interact with someone on this topic. When I debate stuff like this on Twitter it is always so much anger.

American conservative white guys really hate guys like me. They act as if I have an obligation and duty to support their misogyny and racism because I happen to share skin color and gender with them.

They rarely got good arguments to they try to silence you with insults like simp, white knight, male feminist etc. The irony is that these guys act as if they go against the grain and are brave free thinkers. But they are all sheep. Their toxic views are sadly so dominant.

But I feel confident about these issues because I grew up in Norway which is very feminist and I lived in the US. I have seen with my own eyes and experienced myself as a father how gender equality has benefitted both men and women. Conservative American men have a too bleak view on it. They see a zero sum gave, where they think raising up women means pushing them down.

I got to admit, I was kind of anti-feminism growing up in the 1980s because I felt it got pushed down our throat. But living in the US in the early 2000s I got kind of shocked by the prevalence of misogyny. Same with racism. One doesn't care about a lot of these issues when you don't observe them yourself. You think the world is mostly fine and people exaggerate. But once you hear fellow guys put down women, disparage people of different skin color or sexual orientation then you realize this stuff is important.

At US college I got literally told by people I knew to take advantage of women. I was at frat parties where drunk girls nearly got raped. It was just so much disturbing stuff and I come from a blue collar industrial town in Norway. It is not like I grew up with some liberal college educated elite bubble. I hung out with people who were welders, electricians, iron workers here in Norway. None talked about women that way.

So I see an opportunity to address fellow men around the world, because we have lived through the more gender equal society in Scandinavia, that they fear so much, for a long time already. We have the first hand experience. And we know it is not the bleak future they imagine. In fact it is a very positive one. Scandinavian men are much more happy with their life and role than their American counterparts.

I try to appeal to reason as a way to convince them. That is the approach I took here in this article addressing common male prejudice around how women dress:

https://erik-engheim.medium.com/her-skirt-was-too-short-c40e6281708b